What is Marriage?
a social union or legal contract between people that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged in a variety of ways, depending on the culture or subculture in which it is found. Such a union, often formalized via a wedding ceremony, may also be called matrimony.
I believe too many people are rushing into marriage, and way too many people do not take it seriously. It is not a joke, or an excuse to have a party, its not like dating, where you can just decide next week you like someone else and dump the guy/girl.
Marriage is a life long commitment, a spiritual, emotional, physical, legal commitment to stand beside this person, to honor them for the rest of their life.
Even though I'd live with Justin for pretty much the beginning of our relationship, which was 3 years in June.. I still did not take marriage as a joke, it was a very big step for me. I had known he was "THE ONE" since the start, but was I ready to be married at 19,20, or 21? No. I needed to get to know who he really was, to know howe together we could handle life challenges. A wife is a different role than a girlfriend.
I'm tired of seeing girls be "engaged" 15 times to 15 different guys, is there a ring on your hand? are REALLY planning to spend the rest of your life with this guy, you've known a whole month? you don't know the person well enough to make that kinda big decision, being engaged is a promise to marry, and I hate seeing girls turn it into a "thing to do" after "being engaged" so many times, it doesn't seem as special anymore.
I'm also REALLY tired of all these on and off relationships that people think being married will make it work.
if you can't even stay together for more than a few weeks without breaking up, or fighting and one running to her moms, or kicking the other out what in the hell makes you think being married will magically make all your problems go away?
If you can't handle a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship now, you probably won't be able to handle marriage 5 years from now.
Because when you finally get tired of all the fighting and the crying and the stupid drama, guess what? you can't just "break up" and go find someone new, you have to get a divorce, go through the courts, divide things up, if you have kids, have a custody agreement.. and once you're divorced its over, you can't just decide a few days later "oh maybe I really do love them, lets be married again" nope sorry.!
I can tell you, these on and off again, constantly breaking up relationships,they never work out in the long run.. I've been there, done that.. and in the end you just keep getting back together out of comfort, and routine, because its easier to just get back together than to move on and admit its really over.. but by then you're so miserable .
Marriage is not a joke, its a big, lifetime commitment.
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